I made my values cards by following the exercises in the RBBP book. I am blown away by how much I have learned so far. It’s like discovering a new me – and I thought I knew myself well. If this is the only activity I did out of the whole book it still would have been worth buying.
The words that emerged for me were (in no particular order)
Movement (this from the PE-phobe!!)
Connection, Egalitarianism, Authenticity
Blank slates, Free, Open (mainly centered around time)
Action (this from the person who plans things to death – and who hasn’t been able to get a business off the ground yet . . .)
This will help me eliminate many of the ideas I had generated in previous attempts at starting a business. No wonder few of them spoke to me – few of them are designed with my values and vision (yet to be assembled) in mind. I need to start thinking bigger – and incorporating these into my ideas. I was going mainly for moneymakers (or what I thought would be) and not acknowledging that I have to sustain a venture. It has to be meaningful.
This also helps me to see where I enjoy my current position and where it’s conflicting with my values. I can also help to bring out the elements I enjoy most. I love the novelty, variety, open and self-directed schedule, learning, doing, connection aspects a lot. Because it is technology-centered, there isn’t as much movement and nature as I would like. Also, action is a mixed bag. Sometimes projects bog down (usually when too many people are involved) but then with other things I am free to act on my own or take the lead with a group. Also, not everything is novel. I am sick of doing some tasks over and over, but at least they come in batches now and I am getting efficient at them so I tend to just get them out of the way and move on to bigger and more interesting tasks. I also view them as an opportunity for connection when they involve meeting with another staff member. So I appreciate that there are there are really more values-oriented aspects than not about my employment, and I could work to incorporate more of what I feel is lacking.
I found it interesting that technology did not emerge as a value since I spend a LOT of time learning about and leveraging technology tools. Well, I guess it wouldn’t be a value in and of itself anyway. Images of technology showed up for me in Learning/Doing and initially in Connection, but then I took it out and re-did that one. I do spend a lot of time on the computer, though . . . so am I REALLY spending all my time with technology engaged in the deeper values that came through for me as important? Am I truly spending ALLLLLLLLL that computer or iPad time learning something new or connecting with others, or doing/taking action? Or is that just a cover-up to avoid action? And it’s at the expense of nature and movement, many times – or even live, F2F connection.
If I get around to it I’ll post some pics.
I’m still pretty blown away by how this shifted my thinking. The book must have come into my life just at the right moment to be able to work with this relatively simple exercise in such a deep way.